Dating Guru: Marlene Dietrich

I recently had occasion to read up on the great actress and singer from the 1930s and 1940s, Marlene Dietrich. I was amazed at her wisdom regarding the romance dance. Many of the things that she said (below) are things I have said as well, but without her charm.... These quotes show incredible insight into both how to attract, and how to maintain relationships with, men.

"My legs aren't so beautiful, I just know what to do with them."


"The average man is more interested in a woman who is interested in him than he is in a woman with beautiful legs."


"A man would prefer to come home to an unmade bed and a happy woman than to a neatly made bed and an angry woman."


"Once a woman has forgiven a man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast."

"Most women set out to change a man, and when they have changed him, they do not like him."

The Value of Experience

Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted....

Jenny Sanford: Commitment to Marriage

Below is the statement released by Jenny Sanford, who for her commitment to her marriage and willingness to think of reconciliation first, and divorce second, deserves elevation to the status of a National Heroine.

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I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.

I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.

I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband's infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.

This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.

I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.

Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.

This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.